The Truest Thing About You: Identity, Desire, And Why It All Matters by David Lomas [Book Review]

The Truest Thing About You Book

This is a book review for “The Truest Thing About You” by David Lomas. Publisher: David C. Cook. 

If you’ve ever felt deflated or discouraged by who you think you are, this book will give you the courage to look again. Take a good look at who you are and ask yourself, “What is the truest thing about me?” It is what I do? Is it what I’m good at? Is it who I know?  Have you ever stood before a mirror, gazing at your reflection and asked, “Who am I?”

The human condition is to cling to true things about ourselves that simply aren’t that true. We elevate things that are merely true–or half-true, or true some days but not others–to the level of “truest.”  Depending on our environment, we define ourselves differently to different people.

When will you ask the most important question…”What does God say is the truest thing about me?” [1]  

In The Truest Thing About You, David Lomas cuts to the core about where your true identity should reside and rips through any identity crisis you struggle with…those lies you’ve come to believe in order to embrace the truer and more beautiful image of yourself.

When it comes to an identity crisis, the shift from swimming to drowning isn’t always sudden. Major life changes can be as traumatic to your sense of identity as a shark attack–but sometimes all it takes is the hint of a cramp or the tug of a current. [2]

Simply said, I like this book. There are a few chapters that tug at emotions and memories and tear ducts. I plead guilty with having an identity crisis…finding security in work and family. I’ve experienced a “shark attack” in both work and with a family loss.

How do you think you would respond in a sudden shift in life? Where is your identity anchored?

There is a fundamental difference between who we are and what we do. [3] What we have–or don’t have–is not the truest thing about us. [4] But what if we desire the wrong things, and find ourselves with the wrong identity, surely all we have to do is desire better things…right?

Not so fast.

This book is a rewarding read because it spells out where to go to find the truest thing about you. Desiring the “better things” and running after that will not satisfy you. It is your view of Jesus that shapes your identity.

How does your view of Jesus shape your identity?  How does your view of Jesus bring into focus the truest thing about you?


David Lomas invites you to discover and live out the truth of who God created you to be: you are loved, you are accepted, and you are made in God’s image.

One of the most memorable pages to read was the introduction by Francis Chan. The essence of this book is to dwell on the promises of scripture. God promises an internal change that takes place in those who trust in Christ, and take hold of that identity, our actions begin to happen naturally–or supernaturally. [5]

The book has eight chapters and is 210 pages long. The author includes biblical insights and personal narratives that resonates with the reader. It is documented with cross-references from bible passages and narratives from classics, such as C.S. Lewis’s The Voyage of the Dawn Treader. (Chapter 5…one of my favorite chapters in the book.)

Read The Truest Thing About You and share it with a friend to form a Jesus based identity in our world…the truest thing about you.

[1] page 21 | [2] page 32 | [3] page 37 | [4] page 42 | [5] page 16

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255

Develop a Habit of Change

My one resolution for 2013 is:

Develop a Habit of Change

I don’t want to be satisfied with the status quo nor do I want to have a false sense of security with my worldly possessions…to become so blindly contented with my surroundings that I cannot accept change or that I would stop wanting to change.  And that is a scary thought.

Why do I need to develop a habit of change? Because I am easily distracted and truly fear that I will atrophy without a plan to develop a new routine, a new rhythm that will excite a movement towards change.

I recently read this:

“The way you spend the first 21 days of 2013 will set the pattern for how you spend the next 344 days of the year.” ~Carey Nieuwhof

That is really true. And from personal experience,  I know that I must be intentional about developing a habit of change and the best time to start is now.

Here are five areas that I want to improve in…to develop a habit of change:

Develop a Habit of Daily Personal Worship

Developing this spiritual discipline is crucial for becoming mature and equipped. It is not just a religious thing to do. It is a spiritual channel through which God’s glory, grace and truth continually flow into my life. To develop a lifelong habit of embracing Jesus in daily personal worship, I will do this for 21 days and will repeat for another 21 days and another…

Develop a Habit of Mentoring

Establishing a monthly routine of consistently meeting with one or two people to mentor. This will take discipline to set aside a few hours every month to meet with a friend(s). I like seeing the names of friends written on my calendar! On the flip side of this, I need to be mentored as well. I’m very encouraged and blessed to have a friend write my name on her calendar!

Develop a Habit of Organized Journaling

I keep a small notebook handy and carry it with me when I travel (a lot of great ideas come to mind when sitting in an airplane), I tend to clutter the top of my desk with post-it notes (creative ideas jotted down) and I always use the “Notes” app on my iPhone or iPad during meetings. I need a simple solution to stay organized in this area…so I will learn how to use Evernote.

Develop a Habit of Hobby

I will focus on improving skills in two creative outlets: water-color painting and photography. I’ve grown to appreciate the fact that God is very creative and the more I learn about Creator God, the more creative I become.

Develop a Habit of Storytelling

I want to be intentional about telling my children and my grand children wonderful stories about the history of our family. We have been rescued. We are continually rescued.

“Generation after generation stands in awe of your work; each one tells stories of your mighty acts.” Psalm 145:4 (The Message)

“Stories we heard from our fathers, counsel we learned at our mother’s knee. We’re not keeping this to ourselves, we’re passing it along to the next generation–God’s fame and fortune, the marvelous things he has done.” Psalm 78:1-4 (The Message)

How about you? What areas in your life do you want to change? What kind of habits are you developing?